Advice needed: How to handle pensioners on a very limited income

[KristianEscort]

How best to respond to the email I received below? If anyone can offer any practical advice I'd appreciate it. I don't want to out price anyone - my heart kinda goes out to him - though I feel it's important given the industry I'm in I don't sell myself too cheap either. It's an hour of my time, though for him, it's a lot of money - how best to balance it?

Hi Kris

Just a quick e-mail to thank you for Monday night and introducing me to...

It was certainly an experience to be remembered.

I hope to meet up with you again and go that bit further. You certainly left me wanting more.

I'm not sure when that will be though. Living on a pension means I have to be careful with my money.

Anyway, thanks again and here's to the next time.

Best regards

[Rab]

Without knowing what exactly it was that you did for him (what he's into) and how much further he's wanting to take things, it's difficult to say how you could maybe tailor the session to get a good balance of a price that suits him and decent fee for you...

I would say though, ideas like 'living on a budget' are VERY subjective.

I had a bloke once tell me he was on a tight budget as he was a student. Talking to him over the course of the session, it turned out his 'tight budget' included paying for a massage usually twice a month as well as buying all his tickets for the upcoming theatre season, sometimes going to see a show twice if he liked it. When he'd said 'tight budget' I'd imagined him living on Pot Noodles and mystery meat from a car boot sale, sitting in a squalid bedsit craving the softness of a man's touch.

Clearly, two very different ideas of a 'tight budget'.

[KristianEscort]

The full sentence read

'Just a quick e-mail to thank you for Monday night and introducing me to some of the delights of BDSM'

(I removed the BDSM bit to keep it generic as not everyone here has an active interest in BDSM and the bdsm bit could detract from the main question).

[KristianEscort]

When I facilitate BDSM sessions with any client on a repeat basis, the scenes generally tend to evolve and I'll take the clients into new territory, try new activities etc. which I see as usually part of the course so I wouldn't limit my activities in any way, he'd still get the full service depending on where his interests and limits lie.

Yes I see your point on the subjectivity of what he's saying, it's impossible to truly know. Maybe just offer him a 20-25% discount of any subsequent sessions.

[Rab]

Yeah, I see what you mean, it would be difficult to limit a session like that, especially as he's in the early, exploratory stages of BDSM.

Guess it just goes back to finding that balance.

If you were going to give him a discount, you could get him to book at times that are usually quiet for you, so you don't feel like you're missing out on full price business.

[KristianEscort]

Thanks, I don't mind offering a discount to regulars or OAPs, on thought 25% feels about right for me - £75 an hour is still very good money and that way he doesn't feel like charity case, and I don't feel I'm selling myself short. Now I know his situation I'll obviously try especially hard to make sure it's time well spent and it's not that much of a compromise - I think he'd appreciate the gesture.

[Craig]

I would say though, ideas like 'living on a budget' are VERY subjective.

Couldn't agree more. I've had clients asking for discounts as their "living on a budget" and then get into the new top of the range BMW and drive away!! I do have a range of charges depending on where the client sees my advert but do adjust my service I provide accordingly - either by what I offer or the time the client spends with me. Maybe adjusting the service you offer is not an option for you offering a BDSM service.

I find older clients are less demanding anyway and once they have cum will happily pay up and leave.

[Ben Manchester]

You could always discount on the proviso of repeat bookings, that way you both benefit and the discount isn't for nothing.

[TopGuy]

My feeling is that, to be frank, pensioners can sometimes be less fun than younger guys for various reasons (just a preference I guess) so I don't offer them discount. Also, I'm not especially interested in catering to guys who can barely afford me every 6 months. I'd rather forego the hassle and aim at clients who have more money and want more regular meets. But I only do this as a 'second job' and so I can afford to do that.