New, Advice Needed

[LT893]

Hi, i am new to escorting, I've done a bit of porn, and thought give escorting a go. 

 

firstly I've only had one client so far, and all i can say is afterwards i was emotionally drained, dose this get easer or dose it just mean i don't have the mental strength to continue doing this?

 

having sex with a client how do you get / stay hard i.e. pills or cockrings ?

 

i also have an overnight in manc, I'm scared to be honest. advice?

[Ben Manchester]

Hi Luke,

 

It took me a few goes to get used to escorting, so don't worry. It's natural to be a bit nervous with any new job but especially with one as intimate as escorting.

 

When starting escorting it's best to have a proper think about what you are and aren't happy to do. Some guys will want vanilla, some guys are very kinky. Some will want to do things that make you uncomfortable, and it's best to avoid the ones you're not a match for. Personally, I've always being very happy providing kink as top but not as bottom. I also don't rim clients, as I used to get a lot of tummy bugs when I did. I always use condoms when fucking with clients. Everyone has their own limits, be clear and up front about yours so there's no confusion and you don't find yourself doing things you don't wish to do (or upsetting a client that thought you would do something that you don't).

 

I advise you confirm all appointments after having a conversation with the client by telephone. A chat on the phone can help clarify for you both what you wish to get out of the meeting, as well as giving you a chance to get a feeling as to what the client is like as a person. If I can't get on with someone on the phone, or if my gut tells me there's something wrong, I don't meet them. Don't get tempted by offers of silly money, always go with your gut.

 

Personally, I wouldn't book an overnight with a client I hadn't met before but some escorts are happy to work this way. If you meet the guy and you don't get on in the first half hour then I would recommend cutting your losses, refunding the fee, and leaving. There are some other forum topics about overnight appointments, so have a search and see what other advice you can find.

 

Be aware of the time wasters. If you're meeting a stranger at a hotel for example, call the reception and check he's actually in the room specified. Don't travel a long way for a stranger without getting the travel fair in advance (PayPal is excellent for this).

 

By following these rules, I have had lots of really nice experiences with some really nice clients. Sure, I didn't find most of them attractive but, as long as I can talk to them and find something I like about them, I can relax and ensure that they enjoy the experience. Escorting is an intimate form of acting in my view, the idea is to give the client the best experience you can by listening to his needs and responding to them, assuming they don't go outside of your own limits. Giving someone who doesn't get much sex a really good time in bed can be very satisfying - and lucrative when one builds up a number of repeat bookings.

 

In terms of staying hard, I started escorting a long time before Viagra was invented and am usually able to get the old man up as long as I can find something I like about the client and I can relax with them. I find this more difficult with non-talkative clients, so tend to avoid them. I do use Viagra with some of the bigger guys as I've always found body fat a major turn off. Again though, if they're clean and we get on I find I'm usually able to relax and perform.

 

Occasionally, things won't work out. I've found myself unable to get hard when booked to top for a client for example or I've turned up and realised the client isn't someone I couldn't possibly work with (this is very rare). All one can do in this circumstance is try and get over the embarrassment, apologise and discuss it. It's disappointing for clients when an escort can't perform but most understand that we're human, not just sex machines, and therefore things don't always work out. Sometimes a client is happy to continue without getting fucked but, if not, I give them a full or part refund based on what I have actually managed to provide. After all, if they don't get the service they've asked for it would be unfair to charge the full fee. Put it down to experience and move on to your next customer.

 

I hope this helps, please do peruse the other forum topics where you'll find plenty of information about running your escort business.

 

Best wishes

[SleazyMichael]

Hija Luke - BRILLIANT advice from Ben! Nothing more to add.